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Marty a.k.a. cigarjunkie
| Main blog: | Dysnomia | | Birthday: | October 14th | | Gender: | Male | | Occupation: | Sales / Marketing | | Location: | Metro Detroit, USA | | Personality type: | Myers-Briggs INFP, which suggests that I am introverted, intuitive, feeling and perceiving. (Whatever.) |
| Height: | 5' 10" (178 cm) | | Eyes: | Blue Green | | Vision: | Glasses/Spectacles | | Hair Color: | Light Auburn | | Hair Style: | Straight - Short | | Facial Hair: | Goatee | | Skin Tone: | Fair | | Clothing Pref.: | Business - Casual | | Undies: | Briefs - Bikini | | Piercing Info: | Left ear. |
| Relationship Status: | Single - Divorced | | Family Info: | A daughter at the University of Michigan, and two high-school-aged sons who live with their mother | | Sexual Preference: | Straight/Heterosexual | | Astrological Sign: | Libra (Sept 23 - Oct 23) | | Smoking: | Cigars | | Liquor: | Gave it up | | Your Home: | Live alone | | Biography/About: | You don't want to know. | | Likes: | Recovery. | | Dislikes: | Addiction. | | Interests: | family activities, writing, reading, photography, theology, music, history, art, cigars, travel, driving on the Autobahn (yeah, baby!) | | Languages: | American English, High German, Koine Greek; some Japanese, Korean, Russian; and occasionally a smattering of British English (e.g., "Show us yeh tongues mates"), Canadian English (e.g., "Gimme a large double-double, eh, and like a whack of Timbits"), Bavarian German (e.g., "Des woas i ned"), Swabian German (e.g., "Mir gebet nix"); and just enough French to fake the hotel staff into thinking that I actually speak their language |
| Frequent traveler: | Sky Team (e.g., Northwest, KLM, Air France, Malev, et. al.); Star Alliance (e.g., Lufthansa, Air Canada, United, US Airways, British Midlands et. al.), British Airways, Ryan Air, Air Berlin, and of course -- Deutsche Bahn! |
| People/Heroes: | Nikola Tesla, Thomas Edison, Martin Luther, Michelangelo Buonarroti, Jacques Louis David, J. S. Bach, Ludwig van Beethoven, Richard Wagner, Lucius Quinctius Cincinnatus, Arminius (Hermann), Alexander Hamilton, Henry Clay | | Books: | There's simply not enough room to even begin to list them. I have nearly three thousand (not including softcover & bound periodicals) mostly in English and German, and not a one is fiction. | | Music Genres: | Renaissance, Baroque, Classical, Romantic, Swing / Big Band, Motown, Vintage Rock, Vintage Country Rock, Vintage Jazz, The Blues, perhaps some selected modern popular titles | | Bands/Artists: | Die Ärzte, Johann Sebastian Bach, Count Basie, The Beatles, Ludwig van Beethoven, Blondie, David Bowie, Eric Clapton, John Coltrane, Sheryl Crow, The Doors, Antonin Dvorak, Earth, Wind & Fire, Gloria Estefan, Maynard Ferguson, Georg Friedrich Handel, ink1, Joe Jackson, Jethro Tull, Stan Kenton, Kraftwerk, Diana Krall, k. d. lang, Michael McDonald, Gustav Mahler, Meat Loaf, Felix Mendelssohn, Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, Xavier Naidoo, Roy Orbison, Pink Floyd, Michael Praetorius, Gioachino Rossini, Seal, Steppenwolf, Styx, Georg Philipp Telemann, Antonio Vivaldi, Richard Wagner, The Who, Kai Winding, ZZ Top | | Songs: | Nights in White Satin (The Moody Blues) | | TV Shows: | American Idol, Bauer sucht Frau, Mr Bean, A Bit of Fry and Laurie, Bizarre Foods, The Bob Newhart Show, Cold Case Files, Comedy Central Presents, Deutschland Sucht den Superstar, Engineering an Empire, Everybody Loves Raymond, Family Guy, Forensic Files, Futureweapons, Galileo, Get Smart, House M.D., Keeping Up Appearances, Monty Python's Flying Circus, Mystery Science Theater 3000, The Naked Archaeologist, The Outer Limits, Police Squad, Reno 911, Seinfeld, Sledge Hammer, Star Trek TOS, Star Trek New Voyages, The Three Stooges, Twilight Zone, Wetten Dass?, What Not to Wear, Whose Line Is It Anyway? | | Movies: | 28 Days, 300, Mr Bean's Holiday, The Butterfly Effect, Casablanca, A Clockwork Orange, Contact, Crash, Femme Fatale, Hairspray, Johnny English, Lord of War, Master and Commander, Matchstick Men, Miss Congeniality, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, Moulin Rouge, The Naked Gun trilogy, National Treasure, Only the Lonely, Pay It Forward, Phantom of the Opera, Planes, Trains and Automobiles, Rear Window, Rent, The Ring, Rope, The Rose, The Secret, Sleepless in Seattle, Simon, the Alien movies, The Blues Brothers, the Dirty Harry movies, the even-numbered original-cast Star Trek movies, The Gods Must Be Crazy, the James Bond movies, The Matrix trilogy, The Passion of the Christ, What About Bob?, When Harry Met Sally | | Actors: | Sandra Bullock, Nicholas Cage | | Sports: | Frisbee | | Cars/Motorcyles: | BMW motorcycles, esp. up to the /7 series | | Season: | Stan Fields: "Miss Rhode Island, please describe your idea of a perfect date."
Cheryl, Miss Rhode Island: "That's a tough one. I would have to say April 25th, because it's not too hot, not too cold. All you need is a light jacket." (from Miss Congeniality) | | Food: | Sliders (but they don't like me) | | Drink: | Diet Dr. Pepper, Diet A&W Root Beer | | Quotes: | Love hurts. -- Roy Orbison |
Make like Heinz and catch up
Being in recovery is quite a trip sometimes. Once one has significant clean time, one can truly become a new person -- a very different person. One approaches life and relationships in ways they never have before. One's thinking is markedly different. All for the better, I might add.
Yet, for people who were in the recovering person's life back when they were still in their addiction, they still see that person (at least in part) as their former self. They knew how to relate to the addict; they haven't gotten to know the new person in recovery yet. They think they know this person, but...
On friendship
"Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence." -- George Washington
Still don't know why
Last night was one of those nights when my mind never slowed down. Somehow it struck me how atypical it had been for me to put up with the drama that Heather brought into my life. That's not like me. Why did I do it? Even after pondering it all night I'm still not sure.
Perhaps I put up with her drama because it showed how much she needed me.
Maybe I knew how dysfunctional she was and simply tolerated it for that reason.
Could all her cries for help have showed me that, for the first time in her too-brief life, she trusted someone, and that someone was me.
Maybe I just...
My favourite Sylvia Plath poem
A Better Resurrection
I have no wit, I have no words, no tears;
My heart within me like a stone
Is numbed too much for hopes or fears;
Look right, look left, I dwell alone;
I lift mine eyes, but dimmed with grief
No everlasting hills I see;
My life is like the falling leaf;
O Jesus, quicken me.
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