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Advisor Lil Mel
| Main blog: | Random Ramblings | | Gender: | Female | | Education: | Associates degree, Bachelors degree, Graduate degree, PhD / Post Doctoral, School of life | | Religion: | Spiritual but not religious | | Location: | United States, Illinois |
| Email: | melodymcgowan@charter.net |
| Astrological Sign: | Virgo (Aug 23 - Sept 22) | | Biography/About: | I am an author, life coach & counselor specializing in relationship, family, and personal counseling. I believe laughter is the best medicine. I treat others with respect & honesty and expect the same in return. |
Emotinal Honesty
Dear Readers,
Often in our quest to find or maintain a relationship, we fall into the trap of being and doing things which aren't aligned with who we really are. What starts out as a small sacrifice can become a regular habit - giving in to please your mate. To be happy long term, all of us have to not only know ourselves well, but live and act in accordance with our authentic selves.
I call this being "emotionally honest". It sounds easier than it is. We are all conditioned that in order to be happy, we have to be flexible and willing to compromise in a relationship. I was somewhere...
Let's Talk About Sex...(Again)
Dear Readers,
So often when the relationship isn’t going so great, sex is suddenly under the spotlight. At that point, sex becomes something to throw at each other, and that’s dangerous territory. We can do great harm to each other when we use sex as a weapon.
So, back to where we started. What to do about it. Firstly, see it in a wider context. What else is going on? If sex is an issue, where are things at? You can’t deal to the sex issues without dealing with everything else. One must keep in mind, sex is the end result.
What can you do to ‘fix’ the intimacy, the closeness and caring...
Sex or Lack Thereof...
Dear Readers,
So often, during a session, clients bring up the subject of sex…or lack thereof.
Honestly, more and more couples complain about lack of sex in the relationship than anything else. I guess that's no surprise. It's one of the first things to suffer when things aren't going well. Even though it’s a common problem, there’s no easy all purpose answer. Intimate relationships are complicated things, but there are some fundamental truths that apply.
Firstly, sex is the result of intimacy – it isn’t intimacy per se. A woman I know used to joke that her husband getting the washing in...
Happiness is Worth It!
Dear Readers,
I recently received an email recently from a client I dealt with last year. It was great to hear from her. The nature of this profession is that I mostly talk to people when they are in crisis or when things aren’t going so well, and I often wonder how they are doing and what has happened in their life.
I found this email inspirational. She had a tough time last year. Things had not turned out for him the way she had hoped. She was at the end of her 25 year marriage and things weren’t looking so great.
She could have been angry, bitter and resentful at how things had...
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